Emotions ride with us throughout the day no matter where we are, what we do, whom we communicate with, or where we work. When these emotions are positive, when we have a smile on our face, and we outwardly express our positive feeling towards everyone we meet, the day is full of joy. When negative emotions rule the day, however, the opposite occurs. We unknowingly transmit these negative emotions through our facial expression, through our body language, and through our voice tone. Negative vibes are even noticed when you speak on the phone which is a fact that telemarketing sales companies are very aware of. If you doubt this, just try a little experiment by placing a mirror in front of you, pretend to make a call to a friend, and while you are speaking, smile. Your voice tone changes, and your warmth is reflected outward. Now, do the same with a frown on your face, or at a time when you are feeling stressed, and you’ll see the difference (the mirror shows a smiling, happy face), and hear the difference in your tone.
This little exercise should convince you that when you start your day out feeling upset, or frustrated, the negative emotion will be reflected in every circumstance and to all those you meet whether in person or on the phone. So, if these negative emotions are dominant, what can you do as a stress relief technique?
While stress relief techniques vary, one of the best is through exercise. This exercise can be anything from jogging, brisk walking, and tennis, skating and so on. Other forms of stress relief, for some people, comes in the form of listening to relaxing music, or preparing a meal, or enjoying the time spent when engaged in a favourite sport, or reading inspirational poetry. And, while all of these options are available, there is an even stronger method available that you have complete control over and can be used at anytime, and in any location. This method, simply stated, is choice.
You have the choice to decide; you can choose to let issues rule your thoughts and control how you react. You have the option to choose how you will react to any given situation. No one else controls your emotions but you. So, why would you let an external situation control how you feel? You don’t have to.
If something said to you starts to annoy you, take action to resolve it in a calm way rather than lashing out at everyone or everything. This kind of displaced emotion serves to do nothing more than show that you are not in control of your own emotions. Lashing out never resolved anything. All it does do is give you even more additional stress from the response of those you lashed out against. Now, the emotional hole is only getting deeper and deeper with no ladder visible in order for you to climb out.
Your emotions never take a vacation; they are always with you from dawn till dusk. If these negative emotions remain unresolved, they will begin to affect your well being, those around you, and all those you will meet. They will go with you in the car, at work, grocery shopping, or speaking to your children or spouse. Take control; you do have the choice. Do it for your health!